Greetings to all,
I had more than usual favorable responses to last month's blog about persuasion. One asked was my material original or adapted from other sources. I would have to say that most of my material is adapted from other sources, using my own personal "take" on it. There is very little truly original material out there that hasn't been expressed in some place or time. The material for that blog came mostly from a recent book by Dr. Michael Hall about persuasion.
IMPORTANT MENTAL CONCEPTS, REVIEW
As those that read this blog know, I am a great believer in repetition. Hypnosis is primarily self-hypnosis and repetition is the best way to convince the subconscious to do what you want.
Emotions (negative) are just a signal that where you are is not where you want to be. You have emotions, but you are not those emotions. You are much more than your emotions, your thoughts, behaviors, etc. One of the most troublesome problems that I see are patients that personalize their negative emotions – that is, they associate these emotions with self. This comes from the very common belief that emotions are an infallible source of reality and that if an emotion caused it, it must be real and the feeling acted upon. This is not true, for most of the negative emotions (feelings) are products of "what ifs" which are fabrications of the mind.
Many of the patients I see tend to take criticisms and judging too personally. They are usually sensitive to these because of diminished self-esteem. I tell them that words cannot hurt you (sometimes a tough sell). The truth often is the criticizers are generally responding to their own personal hurts and failures.
A few comments on happiness. There is a very broad range for what one thinks represents happiness. However there is a tendency to dwell on short-term, fleeting occurrences and events that soon disappear, only to be replaced by similar events. The pursuit of happiness is not the same as being happy. Happiness is more about living a meaningful life. Ask yourself what and why you're going to do with your life. Does it have meaning?
Happiness [and self-worth] is also frequently represented by one's possessions or standing or associations. Although some happiness can be created through possessions, etc., true happiness does not come from them, it comes more from a quality of the mind that purses positive thoughts and real meaning. It's not about what you have, where you are or what you're doing that makes you happy or unhappy it is how you think about it all.
THOUGHTS FOR TODAY
Life is made up through and with choices. If you choose to be miserable you will find reasons to be miserable. Too many people are skilled in making themselves miserable.
Whether you say "I can" or" I can't", you are usually right.
Worrying is a waste of time and energy. It changes nothing and focuses you on negatives.
Do not let fear tell you who you are and what you must do. You don't have answers or respond to any negative emotion, thought or fear. Fear can only threaten, it cannot act. Anything that makes you negative owns you. Your own mind is scaring you, the feel is real, but the why is a lie.
Choose can, will, wish and get to over must, ought, got to, can't and won't.
As always, comments and questions appreciated.
In the now,
Dear valued customer,
We at RLC Labs want to thank you for your patience as we completed some necessary infrastructure upgrades. These upgrades included moving to a larger facility, implementing new technology, and refining our processes. As many of you know by now, these upgrades unfortunately played a role in the backorder of Nature-Throid, WP Thyroid, and Westhroid. But, as many of you may have suspected, the upgrades were not the only factor in the backorder.
In the last few years, we started experiencing some major hurdles in obtaining a key raw material. These hurdles disrupted our ability to not only keep up with the growing demand for our medications, but to also keep them cost-effective. We ate burgeoning costs for as long as we could and had minimal price increases compared to others, but the path was unsustainable. This information was kept under wraps for the protection of our patients. Quite frankly, we were afraid that if we spoke out about these issues, we would be cut off from our supply and left unable to produce any medication at all. We are happy to report, though, that we now have new partners and the materials needed to ensure fulfillment of all backorders and uninterrupted, ongoing full-scale production.
Despite rumors, we ARE manufacturing and are NOT going out of business. We are working day and night to get back to our usual pace and expect to start shipping in the next two weeks. Strengths are being prioritized by highest demand, starting with Nature-Throid 1 grain, and medications will be released in all counts: 30s, 60s, 90s, 100s, and 1000s. We will be sharing more details as they become available, including production updates and shipping timeframes.
We sincerely apologize for the strain this backorder has caused for our customers and patients and greatly value your continued support. Every effort is being made to get all strengths stocked as quickly as possible while still adhering to our strict quality standards – our medications are not released outside of +/-2% variance between T4 and T3, while the industry allows for a monograph discrepancy of +/-10%.
Nature-Throid, WP Thyroid, Westhroid and our supplements, i-Throid and a-Drenal, are still proudly sourced and made in the U.S., unlike some others, and will still have the same low prices and high quality you have come to know and trust. i-Throid and a-Drenal are not impacted by the backorder and full stock of both are available.
Hope everyone is living as much as possible in the moment, enjoying the day and being grateful generally.
My main topic for today is persuasion.
During my medical practice years, I used some standard type persuasion, believing some method or treatment would be "good" or valuable for the patient. Since going into the MindBody treatment and approach, I have recognized that persuasion is an important factor in the treatment, but it is not like a sales pitch, trying to convince you to buy something or to do something, it is about having a dialogue, communicating and exchanging of values and ideas.
YOU ARE THE HARDEST PERSON THAT YOU WILL EVER TRY TO PERSUADE
Patients frequently tell me something like "I know what I want to do, but I can't seem to get myself to do it, even though I know I should do it". "Knowing" is always easy compared to acting. At the point where you act- real consequences occur. Patients frequently want you to teach them, influence them or direct them as to how to change. My response is along the lines of I can't actually change you, I can guide and make suggestions, but only you can change you.
Self-persuasion is the hardest form of persuasion So, how does one persuade themselves?
Not easy, but doable. Write down a list of things you know you want to do, but are not doing. Ask yourself, does this idea have enough value to persuade me? Are there doubts or questions about it? What is stopping me from making a commitment to act on it?
Self-persuasion, although difficult, must come first and is s requisite for developing and using any advanced skills and abilities. It must come before self-leadership, because if one I cannot lead or manage themselves, one will not be able to influence others.
THOUGHTS FOR TODAY
When you spend your time worrying and over-thinking everything, you're simply using your imagination to create things you don't want.
Refuse to build a monument to some problem by identifying yourself with a problem (e.g., "I am an alcoholic, a failure, etc.").
If your expectations are guided by fearful thoughts about stressful situations, then the results will likely be just as fearful.
Most of our internal dialogue focuses on our shortcomings and this constant fear and worry are our bodies greatest enemies. What is on your mind ends up in your body.
Recently got a comment if it was OK to ask questions. Yes, of course, I will answer as best I can. Comments and questions appreciated.
Self-hypnosis, meditation and positive thinking improve outlook.
Greetings to all,
Welcome to new members.
Today's main topic is Certainty. I am using the word in the sense that it signifies a state where your mind is completely made up and no one or thing is going to change that belief.
BECOMING AND BEING CERTAIN CAN BE DANGEROUS
There is little doubt that Hitler thought he was totally right when he came up with the Third Reich as the "final solution". Most of the time, feeling certain seduces you with good feelings, so you stop thinking, questioning, checking and just go along with whatever. Another seductive thing about being certain is that you experience it emotionally as "confidence.". This kind of thinking is largely responsible for extremist views and attitudes.
DANGER NOT WELL KNOWN
The danger of certainty is not well known, thereby making it a danger to our overall well-being.
"Nothing undermines openness more surely than certainty. Once we feel as if we have 'the answer,' all motivation to question our thinking disappears." (The Fifth Discipline).
Certainty can definitely be a valuable quality, but there are obvious pitfalls.
Do you want to close the door in your search for understanding and for knowing and be certain? Or are you good with staying open, to not knowing "for sure"?
NO ONE HAS "THE ANSWER"
The truth is - no one has "the answer." Every answer that we do have is at best an approximation and never the final answer.
"Openness occurs between people when they are willing to suspend their own certainty in each other's presence".
When you feel certain about something, which we all do from time to time [tragically many people do all the time!]- let that moment be a warning to begin questioning your certainty.
Every time you feel that you are positively right should set off a warning system within.
THOUGHTS FOR TODAY
Life is like good art, you can either appreciate and enjoy it, looking for its beauty and meaning, or focus and dwell on its faults and shortcomings.
"Believing in negative thoughts and acting on them is the single greatest barrier to living a good life".
"The mind is your battleground. It's the place where the fiercest and most ruthless conflict resides. It's where more than half of the things you feared were going to happen, never did. It's where your expectations generally get the best of you. It's where you fall victim to your own train of negative thoughts time and time again".
Some ways to get the most out of life, brief positive morning routine, self-hypnosis or meditation, train to think positively and treat others like you would want to be treated!
Comments, suggestions welcomed.
NOW is the time,
Greetings to All,
Welcome new members!
TIPS FOR PROCRASTINATORS
[how to put procrastination in the 'cross hairs']
It is seldom the top complaint, but is a real limitation for many patients Generally it is due to fear of failure, making mistakes or reacting to a dislike, aversion and similar negative emotional state.
Procrastinators tend to be perfectionistic.
Understand, perfection is an abstract term, not really possible in reality due to its multi ordinal nature [different meanings at different times, places, situations, etc.]. You can go for and be highly competent and proficient, knowing that some mistake will be made along the way and allowing for that.
Be aware of the very first thought that comes up about procrastination,
STOP and notice what your mind is telling you. Often by knowing and embracing that thought, you can change it.
Break the task up into smaller parts.
Many procrastinators tend to forget that most tasks you can break into smaller units, also you can start with small steps forward.
Invest lots of good, positive feelings into even small successes.
Do the easy things first,
Working up to the harder ones. If you really feel courageous, do the big ones first!
Procrastinators often have low self-confidence/esteem
You are much more than your thoughts, emotions, behaviors, you are unique and have talents.
THOUGHTS FOR THE DAY
A negative thought is harmless unless you believe it. It is not the thought itself, it is our emotional attachment to the thought that matters.
An easy path and the right path are rarely the same, the struggle not on the path, but the path itself.
"We cannot be made a captive of any psychological condition to which we have not silently granted our consent."
It takes a great deal of courage to admit that something needs to change, and a lot more courage still, to accept the responsibility for making the change happen. But doing so is worth every bit of effort you can muster.
I have taken a couple of suggestions and "modernized" my writing style.
Live in the moment,
Greetings to all and to new members,
This is my 24th blog, completing 2 years of blogs. I know for sure that the blog has helped some and hope that it has benefited many others in various ways.
Some comments about sleeping problems. I believe that around 2/3rds of my patients have some degree of sleep disturbance. It is labeled "insomnia" by the medical profession for classification purposes, but the label itself carries certain expectations and characteristics in one's mind that can be problematic. Common presumed causes include increased activity of the HPA [hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal] axis, NREM sleep, dysregulation of the arousal system and cognitive system defects. I believe that there is a sizable genetic component as well. My experience has been that the problem often occurs in families of the sleep impaired.
These are my top recommendations for getting for better sleep:
1. Lose the word "insomnia, go to not getting as much sleep as want, forgotten how to sleep, etc.,
2. Don't set sleep expectations too high. Change common misconceptions and expectations- I must have [need] 8 hours sleep a night to my body can accurately determine my sleep needs. I cannot function or do anything after a poor night's sleep to I have functioned adequately on days that I did not sleep well, etc..
3..Do not try to sleep. Sleep is basically a state of "non-doing", of letting go of your day times. If you are trying to sleep you are putting effort into it, which is the opposite of what you should do.
4. Shut down the "chatterbox". Most sleep challenged people find that once they get quiet in the evening and their minds are not being concentrated on something, the little voices in their heads start up. This generally is rehashing the day's events, worries about tomorrow or yesterday and other regrets or concerns. The process is called rumination and seems almost universal in poor sleepers. Remember the day is over, what you did or didn't do is in the past. The future is unknown. In spite of what you may have heard, great thoughts are rare after bedtime. Basically , once in bed there is nothing that cannot wait until tomorrow. Good ways to shut down the chatterbox are sending the voice behind a curtain or wall, moving the voice somewhere else, such as out to the left shoulder [studies have shown that this location cuts way down on chatter] or outside. Slowing it down by dragging out each word, etc.
5. Beware the sleep paradox, i.e. "Don't think about it" almost always becomes "think about it". Very true with sleep. Often you can avoid it by knowing that your body is programmed to sleep and it will sleep no matter what at some point. Make no effort to sleep, just look to relax, get quiet and calm and let the sub-conscious programmer do its job.
Thanks for all of the comments over these past two years. They are inspirational to me. Please keep it up!
Sometime I forget to repeat my 4 basic steps to a better life, a simple morning routine with gratitude, ongoing self-hypnosis, journaling, and be in the now.
Thoughts for the day [most from others, a few originals and paraphrases]:
Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.
Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other.
Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.
Hi to everyone,
Welcome to new members as well. We are entering the holiday season with Thanksgiving tomorrow. Thanksgiving in this country presumably began as a time of celebration for the abundance of the harvests by early settlers – some of the details remain controversial. However, it was a time of gratitude for those celebrating. Gratitude is one of the fundamental elements of a healthy emotional system. Gratitude can cut a wide swath into one's negative thinking patterns. It is one of the major pillows for a positive life style.
A few comments on negative thinking. Most of us tend to think more in negative terms than positive ones. Why is that? As usual, many voices with varying opinions. A popular one is people tend to think "worst case scenarios" and do not consider all the options. Worst case scenarios are like emotional insurance to prepare for the worst. Another one is that we are constantly exposed to negativity via all media coverage, being as negative coverage greatly exceeds positive coverage.
A few tips on how to deal with negative thoughts and actions. Important to remember that all thoughts are your thoughts, no one can create your thoughts. That means you can choose all the thoughts you had or will have. Maybe not quite that simple, for many thoughts, particularly strongly embedded and powerful negative ones, have been used so many times that they become almost automatic and often subconscious.
Many people try to avoid those powerful negative ones by pushing them aside or resisting them, which generally is ineffective. The "secret " is to be aware of them. If a negative thought is associated with that unpleasant, unwanted feeling (the fight or flight response) then it represents a strong negative emotion and you need to be aware of it. Once aware, you can ask the thought what it is telling you. You do this by greeting the thought and accepting it, not pushing it away or resisting it. Generally when you take the time to understand it, you often will learn to manage or control it. Being aware of strong negative thoughts also has another advantage – generally the same thoughts recur over and over and these often signal a deeper or more general origin and pattern.
Thoughts for today:
"I will not hold the past against myself." In spite of what you may have seen or heard, your past does not determine your future, you can learn from the past, but what you do every day that is positive will allow the best possible future.
If someone hurts you, don't take it personally. It is generally a reflection of their pain or problems, not yours.
You can take control of your thoughts before they take control of you. You can't solve your problems with the same thinking you used to create them.
Always look at what you have, instead of what you think you have lost.
You need to ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving. – Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live YOUR best life.
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Live in the moment, IBP
Greetings to all,
This is your day – make it count for you!
As you know by now, I use a lot of repetition because most people generally remember things that are extremely important to them, but if less important they may forget quickly.
So today I am going to repeat a few items that seem to be more important in helping one become the very best versions of ourselves.
You cannot control everything that happens to you, but you can control to how you respond to what happens. You are in control of your life, often a lot more than you would think. You are definitely in control of your thoughts. I know, it doesn't seem that way, as some of the more pervasive negative thoughts are essentially unconscious and pop in there as if not controlled. Be aware of these types as they often are the most important negative ones and you need to know what they are telling you.
Life is made up through and with choices. If you choose to be miserable, you will find reasons to be miserable.
Fear and anxiety are examples of "highjacked" fight or flight responses and are not real. Too many people believe that if you feel it, it must be real. Unfortunately, negative emotions are definitely not trustworthy sources of reality. Finally, don't let anxiety or fear guide your present or control your future.
I have also said a strong negative emotion represents a signal that there is a discrepancy between what you have, desire, expect and something you want to be different. The moment you step outside of your problem (emotion) and observe it, you create a different context, you are now a witness, not an emoter (my word). The easiest way to avoid this problem is to ignore the negative emotion or thought, but for most people this is not easy. So many experts in the mental fields have added ideas for disengaging from our emotions. These include, step back from your emotions (feelings) and create a space between you and the emotion. This gives you a feeling of being separate from it. Observe an emotion without judging it. Emotions are just emotions, they are not commands or orders. One of my favorite sayings, "The feel is real, but the why is a lie."
Thoughts for today:
"When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself."
"Conflict cannot survive without your participation."
"The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don't know anything about."
"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
Thought I was going to forget self-hypnosis and morning routine? Nope!
In the now,
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